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Helping Dog’s Transition

Hi Angie! My kids and I watched your 3 Dog Days video last night that we purchased from Amazon. Our ‘best friend’ golden passed away about 20 months ago and we are ready for a new ‘family member’. We learned so much from the video and want to thank you 🙂 I’ve also been looking at some of your blog videos and learning more. We are wondering if there is anything we should do specifically in this situation. The 3 y.o. black Lab (we will call him Onyx) that we are getting Sunday is coming from foster care. My dad and young adult kids will be meeting Onyx and his foster mother at a park where they will have about an hour together. Then, they will make a long journey home via van and ferry–it will take several hours. So, for us it seems like a two-part/almost two separate introductions/starting out…does that make sense? What is your advice?

Thanks,
Shaye.

Answer:

Hi Shaye~
Thanks so much for your supportive feedback. I’m very happy 3 Dog Days was a great learning tool for you and your family. Thanks for seeking information to help your new family member. There is no need to worry about your new dog making several transitions. Dogs live in the moment, so each new environment and each new human parent they are exposed to is what they make a judgment on at that very moment. So, you can use your “3 Dog Days” techniques when first meet him and also when you move him to the car/ferry etc. Just always remain calm and provide that Silent Support during the journey. As per the “3DD’s” video, when you reach your home; use the techniques you learned in your yard and control his entry and movement within your house. It’s perfect you watched 3 Dog Days before bringing your new dog home but it will also work anytime you want to “start over” with a dog. Even if you’ve had your dog for years, he will start over and follow your guidance through 3DD’s. In other words, the situation will work out based on how the parent acts in each environment. The video techniques help your dog immediately understand the house rules and he will calm down and adjust very quickly. If you are sure about what you want, your dog will be sure. If you are wishy-washy about what you want, he will try to takeover and make up rules and behaviors he decides because he will not sense a strong, respectful parent is present. Again, dogs need information in black and white terms; they do not do well with grey. Thanks again for your nice note and enjoy your new dog!

About the Author:

I’m going to expose myself to you. I’m generally a fairly private person, so this kind of mass, personal exposure causes me some discomfort. However, I’m also a very straight forward person and I don’t shy away from the truth – I’m always happy to share anything I’ve discovered with others in the hope they can also benefit. My greatest desire, my absolute passion, is to change the world for dogs; and in order to do this, I must tell you my story. My journey started, like too many others, doing my best to ride out a very dysfunctional, abusive childhood. How I survived it, how I coped, was to escape into the natural world. I spent every moment I could, observing and caring for my much-loved pets. My family and friends would later remark they rarely saw me without, a cat, dog, guinea pig, horse, goat or rat! In my teens, I became obsessed with researching and planning how I could make things better for animals and protect them from abuse. Adulthood brought a career in real estate and construction and then the gift of two fantastic sons. My focus was on raising my boys to be kind, resilient, happy young men. Through the years, though, I was rehabilitating rescue dogs one or two at a time…the more difficult the case, the more I learned. The dogs were teaching me. I was honing my techniques until I was consistently able to cure dogs and bring back a happy dog mind. Like most moms, I did push myself too hard on all fronts and stress was my constant companion – eventually leading to a decade of various health challenges. I was very busy, and out of necessity, I developed a high tolerance for pain and kept pushing myself forward. Eventually, the universe dealt me a hand that would break me and demand I sit up and take notice. The short version is I was finally diagnosed with trigeminal neuralgia, a rare condition that delivers excruciating nerve pain in the form of “lightening strikes” in the face. I typical had around 30 strikes a day, which varied based on the number and types of incapacitating, medications prescribed to help me endure…to help me stay alive. Trigeminal neuralgia causes what is generally described as the “worst pain known to man ” and “the suicide disease.” If I tried to eat or speak, I got a strike. If I tried to brush my teeth, I got a strike. If I tried to go outside in the wind, I got a strike. I think one of the most devastating parts was not being able to cry…even crying brought a lighting bolt through my mouth. TN steals your life through extreme physical pain and starvation; and terrorizes you emotionally. After enduring it for 5 years, bedridden for the last six months, it was clear I wasn’t going to survive. The details of what happen next are extremely personal, but I was utterly aware I was living my final few days in this world. I had fought, furiously, to stay alive for my boys, but I felt the last energy from my cells slip away. I had lost my last battle. At that moment, I left most of my physical body and pierced the veil between our world and another world. I was instantaneously pain free and completely at peace; but it was not to be. How I was saved, though, is a whole other story. I will just tell you that I was not allowed to fully leave this world; while simultaneously and without my knowledge, a completely random set of circumstances and people were coming perfectly together to my rescue. By the next day, I was rushed to Pittsburgh for emergency brain surgery, preformed by gifted surgeons I had never met. I awoke from the ordeal completely cured…and with a clear directive. I was the recipient of a miracle; and I was to use this second chance to make the world a much better place for dogs. I realized I had to figure out, no matter how difficult, a way to spread this desperately needed information about the dog mind and heart everywhere! No longer was it just ok to save one dog at a time or help one family at a time. I had to make videos with clear, concise, common sense techniques and information; and get them into the hands of every dog parent. I will never stop working and advocating for dogs until my second chance time here is over. Please join me on this journey and help me spread the word!

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